The Things I Won't Be
by Suzanne Hadley Gosselin
My friend plopped down on my couch and made herself comfortable. She was in her mid-twenties, recently married and expecting her first child. “I always wanted to be a young mom,” she chirped.
I smiled. I was a few years younger than she and wouldn't be married for eight more years. But I didn't know that.
Marriage wasn't just around the corner for me, as my family and friends predicted. And as I remained single into my late twenties, I knew that “young mom” would never be one of my titles. I even grappled with the possibility that I might never have natural children.
What Is
There was once a childless single woman who faced this same reality. Her husband died young and though she was still youthful and beautiful enough to remarry, she made a startling choice. She chose to leave her hometown, and country, to live with her mother-in-law.
“Do not do this,” her mother-in-law pleaded. “I am cursed. Empty. I can never give you the opportunities you deserve.” But the young woman was determined. Rather than embracing her best chance to be a wife, a homemaker and a mother, she chose to make her home with bitterness — in an unfamiliar land.
She knew that by doing this, she would very likely end an old maid, nursing her widowed mother-in-law (who, in her deep despair, had taken the name “bitter” — Mara).
“I will stay with you, Mara,” the young woman said. “I have made an oath with God that only death will separate us.”
And, in that moment, Ruth relinquished everything that could have been hers in Moab. She followed her mother-in-law to Judah where Moabites were not even permitted to be in the assembly of worshipers. She would be an outsider with few options, living with an emotionally damaged woman.
What Now?
During my twenties and early thirties I was hit with the many things I wouldn't be: married at 22 like my mom, the first of my siblings to wed, a young mother, a youthful grandmother, a couple married for 70 years. Life just wasn't going to work out the way I had anticipated.
And I had a choice. Choice No. 1: I could dwell on the deep sense of loss I felt at the death of those dreams, question God's goodness and become bitter. Choice No. 2: I could grieve the things I would not be and ask my loving Father to show me new dreams — the things “No eye has seen” (1 Cor. 2:9).
By God's grace, I went with Choice No. 2. Though as a single woman I could not be fruitful through marriage and childbearing, I could be fruitful in the lives of others. I could have divine conversations with friends. I could buckle down and serve those in need. I could bring sweetness to bitter situations.
But first I had to let go of my expectations for my life. I had to give up control of my circumstances (which I didn't truly have in the first place). I had to accept with joy the things I would never be.
Sometimes I think of people whose paths have been very different than my own. Those who seemed to effortlessly find Mr. (or Mrs.) Right, married young, had children in what seemed like the perfect timing. The thing is, bitter circumstances touch us all. That's why books like Ruth and Ecclesiastes and Job are included in the Bible.
Life doesn't always go well for those who follow God. In fact, sometimes it's the opposite. For reasons only Heaven knows, our lives can seem void of goodness. And like Naomi, we believe bitterness will always be our companion.
What May Be
Ruth and Naomi arrived in Bethlehem, during a dark time in Israel's history. In the time of the judges, it is said that everyone did what was right in his own eyes. The system was broken. But in the worst of times, there are always the faithful. Naomi and Ruth were among them.
So was Boaz, a relative of Naomi's. And it just so happened that Ruth ended up in Boaz' field, collecting leftover barley. It was there that Boaz first noticed her. He was impressed by her industrious ways. Instead of allowing grief to overwhelm her, Ruth was sacrificially providing for the needs of another.
Boaz was captivated by a woman who acted so contrary to her circumstances. Though he himself was a man of repute, as the son of a prostitute he understood the sting of being an outcast. Perhaps that is why his heart went out to the young woman.
He invited Ruth to rest and collect grain within the protection of his field. “May the Lord repay you for what you have done,” he said. “May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.”
He did not know he would be the means of God's reward.
What Next?
At some point in my single years, I decided it was futile, and even sinful, to cling to the things I would not be. I could only seek to know better the things I would be: a loving daughter, a loyal friend, an encouraging sister, a devoted follower of Jesus.
Then God began to plant other dreams in my heart.
It's true, you may never have natural children, He whispered. But how do you know that I will not bring you a husband who shares your heart for adoption?
And then: You may die without ever getting married. You would not be the first. But I will show you the glories of my Kingdom.
And, Right now it seems as if you have no one but Me. But I will reveal amazing things to you as you walk by my side. Trust Me, Child.
Many dreams I couldn't even imagine — they resided in my heart as very basic hope — things unknown to me that I trusted God could do. Instead of wasting my energy on grieving what I would never be, I sought to transfer that energy into being someone for Him.
What Will Be
Boaz' relationship with the young Moabitess did not end with the role of beneficiary. He was soon enough made aware that it was his duty to act as kinsman-redeemer to Ruth and Naomi. And so, through a series of God-ordained events, he married the girl who had captured his attention.
The elders declared: “May the Lord make the woman who is coming into your home like Rachel and Leah, who together built up the house of Israel.” Ruth was no longer an outsider.
She had realized the dreams she had purposefully set aside when she chose to stay with Naomi — and serve the God of Israel. Ruth became a wife, a mother, a noble woman, a means of provision for her family and the great-grandmother of a king.
How far the young woman had come from the place of bitter disappointment. Even her mother-in-law, upon holding her grandson in her arms, was no longer Mara. “Praise be to the Lord, who this day has not left you without a kinsman-redeemer,” the townswomen sang. “May he become famous throughout Israel!”
* * *
The truth is, I cannot dream God-sized dreams. I also cannot bear God-sized tragedies. Whether I am realizing dreams or dealing with the loss of them, I need the One who created me and loves me. Like the Moabitess, I can choose each day to cling to Him.
There is comfort in knowing the days of my life are numbered by Him. He knows all of the things I will not be. But really that's not so important. What is more important, is that He knows the things I will be. Things better than I could ever dream up.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
A Good Article
Again, from Boundless... I found this and read it, and thought it was very interesting...
DEAR BOUNDLESS ANSWERS
I've been reading Boundless Answers since it started, and I've made the observation that a lot of the "Getting to Marriage" articles have been directed toward single women. Well, I guess this is all well and good, except that it seems that the assumption has been made that us single Christian guys know what we should do on our end about how to properly pursue marriage in a Godly manner. I can say with relative accuracy that for a lot of us, we do NOT know how to properly go about this.
So, my question is this: How should we, as young men, properly pursue a Godly woman romantically, but in a Godly manner? Honestly, I'm lost when it comes to this. We men get all kinds of Godly advice on how to be Godly husbands and fathers, or how to be Godly single men, but what about the interim between the two? How should a Godly man go about pursuing a Godly woman?
REPLY
I understand. I grew up in a home that offered next-to-nothing in the way of instruction on women and relationships, whether from a secular or Christian view, so I understand where you're coming from. This left me, like you, totally clueless when it came to pursuing a relationship, godly or otherwise. I was "trained" by my peers, which was disastrous. Sadly, when I became a Christian, I was offered little more in the way of instruction, and experienced similar outcomes. As I now read numerous letters like yours some 25 years after I waded into the world of relationships, I see things haven't changed much.
Looking back there are three things I would advise you to consider as you move toward marriage as a young man, things I wish someone would have told me.
First, prepare your heart. As you take a good, long, contemplative look at your heart, what things do you see need addressing before you begin to offer your heart to, and join your heart with, someone else's heart? Albert Mohler has written a phenomenal piece on marks of maturity for young men. I wish I'd had such a list when I was in my 20s. A good relationship will require from you a willingness to be authentic, someone who is comfortable in his own skin, who receives his masculine identity from Christ, not from the woman he hopes to marry.
So, spend some time with God and ask Him to show you what needs to happen in your heart before you move forward. Ask Him to reveal to you where, if anywhere, you are lacking in maturity, either spiritually, socially or emotionally, and pray for His help to grow you up in those areas. For me this initially came through a little book by the late Ed Cole called Courage. It was just the proverbial kick in the seat I needed as a 20-year-old man. Among other things, it challenged me to read a chapter of Proverbs every day, a habit that had a profound impact on my maturity, and one I continue 22 years later.
Second, build your framework now for what you want your courtship or dating to look like. No matter who God has for you, you can decide right now how the process of getting to know her will play out. What spiritual disciplines, physical standards, meaningful activities, conversations, fun stuff, will you incorporate into your season of courtship or dating? Remember, that season is pre-marriage, and the habits you develop then will be the habits of your marriage relationship. Develop great dating and courtship habits and you'll have a great foundation upon which to build a vibrant marriage.
Third, as you begin to narrow your focus on a young woman who stands out to you, slowly but intentionally make an effort to get to know her. Create ways for doing that that make her feel safe and reduce temptation for both of you, like spending time together in groups whenever possible, and initiate some one-on-one conversation. Here's a little conversation advice: ask her about her. Without coming across like an aggressive journalist, discover who she is. And here's another piece of conversation advice: when she asks questions about you, provide a little more information than "uh-huh." I don't mean to offend you, but I've heard from so many girls that that's what they usually get from most guys.
As for romance, my best advice is to become a student of her and learn what she considers romantic, what she values. If it's flowers, then flowers. If spontaneity, then spontaneity. If quality time, then quality time. If it's vacuuming, then vacuum. For my wife it's a combination of all those and more. It took time for me to figure that out. The most important thing is get to know her heart and respond to it. Getting to know someone is like a dance—you gently lead, careful not to drive, push or drag her around. She doesn't want a wallflower, and she doesn't want a stalker.
The best resource I've found for discovering how to do a romantic, godly relationship is the almost legendary teaching on the book of Song of Solomon by Tommy Nelson, pastor of Denton Bible Church. Whether you're currently in a relationship or one seems miles away, do whatever you can to purchase and listen to it now.
Blessings,
JOHN THOMAS
From http://www.boundless.org/2005/answers/a0002340.cfm
DEAR BOUNDLESS ANSWERS
I've been reading Boundless Answers since it started, and I've made the observation that a lot of the "Getting to Marriage" articles have been directed toward single women. Well, I guess this is all well and good, except that it seems that the assumption has been made that us single Christian guys know what we should do on our end about how to properly pursue marriage in a Godly manner. I can say with relative accuracy that for a lot of us, we do NOT know how to properly go about this.
So, my question is this: How should we, as young men, properly pursue a Godly woman romantically, but in a Godly manner? Honestly, I'm lost when it comes to this. We men get all kinds of Godly advice on how to be Godly husbands and fathers, or how to be Godly single men, but what about the interim between the two? How should a Godly man go about pursuing a Godly woman?
REPLY
I understand. I grew up in a home that offered next-to-nothing in the way of instruction on women and relationships, whether from a secular or Christian view, so I understand where you're coming from. This left me, like you, totally clueless when it came to pursuing a relationship, godly or otherwise. I was "trained" by my peers, which was disastrous. Sadly, when I became a Christian, I was offered little more in the way of instruction, and experienced similar outcomes. As I now read numerous letters like yours some 25 years after I waded into the world of relationships, I see things haven't changed much.
Looking back there are three things I would advise you to consider as you move toward marriage as a young man, things I wish someone would have told me.
First, prepare your heart. As you take a good, long, contemplative look at your heart, what things do you see need addressing before you begin to offer your heart to, and join your heart with, someone else's heart? Albert Mohler has written a phenomenal piece on marks of maturity for young men. I wish I'd had such a list when I was in my 20s. A good relationship will require from you a willingness to be authentic, someone who is comfortable in his own skin, who receives his masculine identity from Christ, not from the woman he hopes to marry.
So, spend some time with God and ask Him to show you what needs to happen in your heart before you move forward. Ask Him to reveal to you where, if anywhere, you are lacking in maturity, either spiritually, socially or emotionally, and pray for His help to grow you up in those areas. For me this initially came through a little book by the late Ed Cole called Courage. It was just the proverbial kick in the seat I needed as a 20-year-old man. Among other things, it challenged me to read a chapter of Proverbs every day, a habit that had a profound impact on my maturity, and one I continue 22 years later.
Second, build your framework now for what you want your courtship or dating to look like. No matter who God has for you, you can decide right now how the process of getting to know her will play out. What spiritual disciplines, physical standards, meaningful activities, conversations, fun stuff, will you incorporate into your season of courtship or dating? Remember, that season is pre-marriage, and the habits you develop then will be the habits of your marriage relationship. Develop great dating and courtship habits and you'll have a great foundation upon which to build a vibrant marriage.
Third, as you begin to narrow your focus on a young woman who stands out to you, slowly but intentionally make an effort to get to know her. Create ways for doing that that make her feel safe and reduce temptation for both of you, like spending time together in groups whenever possible, and initiate some one-on-one conversation. Here's a little conversation advice: ask her about her. Without coming across like an aggressive journalist, discover who she is. And here's another piece of conversation advice: when she asks questions about you, provide a little more information than "uh-huh." I don't mean to offend you, but I've heard from so many girls that that's what they usually get from most guys.
As for romance, my best advice is to become a student of her and learn what she considers romantic, what she values. If it's flowers, then flowers. If spontaneity, then spontaneity. If quality time, then quality time. If it's vacuuming, then vacuum. For my wife it's a combination of all those and more. It took time for me to figure that out. The most important thing is get to know her heart and respond to it. Getting to know someone is like a dance—you gently lead, careful not to drive, push or drag her around. She doesn't want a wallflower, and she doesn't want a stalker.
The best resource I've found for discovering how to do a romantic, godly relationship is the almost legendary teaching on the book of Song of Solomon by Tommy Nelson, pastor of Denton Bible Church. Whether you're currently in a relationship or one seems miles away, do whatever you can to purchase and listen to it now.
Blessings,
JOHN THOMAS
From http://www.boundless.org/2005/answers/a0002340.cfm
The Proverbs 31 Woman
It's 2:30 at the moment, and I really should be reviewing for a French test I have later today, but I just had to get some thoughts down... (And besides, French is eaaassssyyyy. Haha.)
I'm just thinking about marriage. As I watch my friends are all starting to embark on this adventure, I wonder why I'm not in the same situation. I've been reading articles on one of my favourite websites, Boundless, and they have lots of good advice and good discussions about topics such as this.
I've started thinking about what qualities I have that would contribute to marriage, in any case. What would attract a man to me? Do I possess the qualities of a godly woman; am I the "Proverbs 31 Woman" that is described below?
10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.
19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.
22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Am I the capable, determined, hard-working woman described above? There are definitely some things I need to work on. And I think before I can consider marriage or anything for myself, I should work on improving myself to become the person God has destined for me to be. I want my life to be an example of good. I want my life to have a ripple effect on others. We were studying Martin Luther in history today, and I was struck by how his life changed the world. And all he did was stand up for what he believed in, was pious and determined to do the right thing. That's what I want. And all for the glory of God, of course. And I don't need a husband to do that. I'm sure it IS in God's plan, but that is not the only aspect of His plan for me.
So... I think I'll start with reviewing for that French test today. Time to work hard.
I'm just thinking about marriage. As I watch my friends are all starting to embark on this adventure, I wonder why I'm not in the same situation. I've been reading articles on one of my favourite websites, Boundless, and they have lots of good advice and good discussions about topics such as this.
I've started thinking about what qualities I have that would contribute to marriage, in any case. What would attract a man to me? Do I possess the qualities of a godly woman; am I the "Proverbs 31 Woman" that is described below?
10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.
16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.
19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.
22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Am I the capable, determined, hard-working woman described above? There are definitely some things I need to work on. And I think before I can consider marriage or anything for myself, I should work on improving myself to become the person God has destined for me to be. I want my life to be an example of good. I want my life to have a ripple effect on others. We were studying Martin Luther in history today, and I was struck by how his life changed the world. And all he did was stand up for what he believed in, was pious and determined to do the right thing. That's what I want. And all for the glory of God, of course. And I don't need a husband to do that. I'm sure it IS in God's plan, but that is not the only aspect of His plan for me.
So... I think I'll start with reviewing for that French test today. Time to work hard.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Gossip and Dreams.
So it's been a couple weeks since I last posted again.
Why does life seem to get in the way? It has been insanely crazy this past little while. I haven't even had a chance to see Sydnee at all and catch up with her. So no wedding news or anything. Though she and Keegan have bought a house! I'm so excited and happy for them. Don't know any details, though, because as I said I haven't seen her in a looooonnnng time. (Since before I went to camp, which was the second last week of August. :( I miss her!)
Also, on the dating/relationship front... Rosie has a new boyfriend. We'll see how it goes. She kept it from us for a month, too! I couldn't believe it. So who knows how that's going to go...
But yeah. Enough gossipping.
Oh! You know what's kind of funny? I had a dream the other night that I had a baby. Strange, huh? He was so cute! Only thing is I didn't know what last name to put on his birth certificate, because I wasn't married in this dream... :( (Yeaahhhh.... Um. Not too sure who the father was supposed to be in it.) And I didn't want to give him my last name because I knew I'd get married some day and then it would just be confusion and paperwork and forever on his birth certificate it would be my maiden name and yeah. Strange dream!! I do know his first name though. It was Robin. I actually really like that. But I was also debating on his middle name. For a while I've wanted to name my first son Elliot Joseph. But in this dream, I couldn't think of another middle name. So I was going to put Robin Joseph. But then I thought, what if I have another son in the future and want to name him Elliot - then what? But on the other hand, if I don't have a son, the name Joseph would never be used. So I was in this weird limbo of naming my son. Hahaha yup. Strange is definitely the definition of this dream. I mean, it wasn't like anything was happening, it was all just me thinking. Usually my dreams aren't like that. But I do have to admit I really like the name Robin Joseph, and I'm thinking of scrapping Elliot Joseph, or else changing that somehow to something like Elliot Morgan or something. Anyways, there's still a long time to decide, and I'll probably change the names I like, still! Haha. I don't even know how many times I've changed my top five boy and girl combos. It's so much fun though... ;)
But yes. Anyways. I think I'm done for now.
I'll post more later!
Miss Marian.
Why does life seem to get in the way? It has been insanely crazy this past little while. I haven't even had a chance to see Sydnee at all and catch up with her. So no wedding news or anything. Though she and Keegan have bought a house! I'm so excited and happy for them. Don't know any details, though, because as I said I haven't seen her in a looooonnnng time. (Since before I went to camp, which was the second last week of August. :( I miss her!)
Also, on the dating/relationship front... Rosie has a new boyfriend. We'll see how it goes. She kept it from us for a month, too! I couldn't believe it. So who knows how that's going to go...
But yeah. Enough gossipping.
Oh! You know what's kind of funny? I had a dream the other night that I had a baby. Strange, huh? He was so cute! Only thing is I didn't know what last name to put on his birth certificate, because I wasn't married in this dream... :( (Yeaahhhh.... Um. Not too sure who the father was supposed to be in it.) And I didn't want to give him my last name because I knew I'd get married some day and then it would just be confusion and paperwork and forever on his birth certificate it would be my maiden name and yeah. Strange dream!! I do know his first name though. It was Robin. I actually really like that. But I was also debating on his middle name. For a while I've wanted to name my first son Elliot Joseph. But in this dream, I couldn't think of another middle name. So I was going to put Robin Joseph. But then I thought, what if I have another son in the future and want to name him Elliot - then what? But on the other hand, if I don't have a son, the name Joseph would never be used. So I was in this weird limbo of naming my son. Hahaha yup. Strange is definitely the definition of this dream. I mean, it wasn't like anything was happening, it was all just me thinking. Usually my dreams aren't like that. But I do have to admit I really like the name Robin Joseph, and I'm thinking of scrapping Elliot Joseph, or else changing that somehow to something like Elliot Morgan or something. Anyways, there's still a long time to decide, and I'll probably change the names I like, still! Haha. I don't even know how many times I've changed my top five boy and girl combos. It's so much fun though... ;)
But yes. Anyways. I think I'm done for now.
I'll post more later!
Miss Marian.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Trash the Dress?
I am a big fan of wedding photography (whudda thunk?). But one slightly unconventional aspect of wedding photography is starting to take off. On my Facebook feed today, a photographer I like posted some photos from a Trash the Dress session she just had with one of her clients. I was intrigued. I'd heard of, and even seen pictures of, TTD shoots but I've never really blogged about it before. In some ways, I think I'd love to do one after I'm married. I mean, you're never going to wear your dress again, right? It's just going to sit there "suffocating in plastic in your closet" as one website said. And I'm pretty sure, as sentimental as it is, my daughter would like to wear her own dress when she gets married (assuming I have a daughter!), so no point in saving it -- I know I don't want to wear my mom's dress (as lovely as it is). I want my own. So voila! Trash the dress sessions. Apparently a lot of fun and they always result in beautiful photos! Here are some I found online:
Water is a popular choice for trash the dress shoots. There's so many ideas out there! I personally really like the underwater shots, though the ones in fountains seem like fun, and the ones on beaches always look so lovely.
Or you could go with something a little more creative: this couple had a pillow fight and got feathers everywhere...
Cute photos, don't you think? But what do you think? Would you have a trash the dress sesh? I don't know if I'd actually be brave enough for it (plus, those dresses cost a lot of money!) but they look like a lot of fun, and could be part of the wedding experience. Thoughts?
Water is a popular choice for trash the dress shoots. There's so many ideas out there! I personally really like the underwater shots, though the ones in fountains seem like fun, and the ones on beaches always look so lovely.
Paint is another theme for a TTD sesh. Funky! And daring.
Or you could go with something a little more creative: this couple had a pillow fight and got feathers everywhere...
Cute photos, don't you think? But what do you think? Would you have a trash the dress sesh? I don't know if I'd actually be brave enough for it (plus, those dresses cost a lot of money!) but they look like a lot of fun, and could be part of the wedding experience. Thoughts?
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Missie and Liam
So today my sister had a quasi-date today. ;) Haha. ("We're just friends." Uh-huh. For now.) There's this guy she met at camp last year. He goes to her youth group and they've been getting to know each other a bit this last little while. They were on the same team again this year at camp, and really became friends. So then, last night they were talking on Facebook chat and there were some things about a mutual friend that they wanted to talk about in person (among other things). So they decided to go out for coffee after church. Apparently they talked a long time and then she went to his house and met his mom and siblings and he made lunch for her. ;) If that's not a date, I don't know what is haha. But she said they're taking it slow, and are just friends for now. Which is good, because Missie is really young still.
But yeah. So my younger sister has officially done more dating than either her older sister or brother have (even though it wasn't a "date"). Is that a little backwards and pathetic? Hahaha. But I'm happy for her. Liam seems like he's a great guy. ;) We'll see how it all plays out!
But yeah. So my younger sister has officially done more dating than either her older sister or brother have (even though it wasn't a "date"). Is that a little backwards and pathetic? Hahaha. But I'm happy for her. Liam seems like he's a great guy. ;) We'll see how it all plays out!
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Time falls through my hands like sand.
September already???
And I only blogged once in August.
Bad me. I'm sorry!
But seriously, where did the summer go? I've been gone the last two weeks at camp, and even that went by insanely fast. It was so awesome though. I loved both of my cabins, and though I was a bit nervous before the start of camp, because I didn't know any of the girls who'd be in my cabin, we all gelled really well together and ended up having an awesome time together. I love being a counselor. WAY better than being an intern and washing the dishes! Haha. But seriously. Though it was utterly exhausting, it was soooo worth it. And God really moved in those two weeks, and it was just amazing to see how well everyone responded!
But anyways. What's new with me on the wedding/relationship front? Well, it seems like every day someone new on Facebook is getting engaged. Or married. Or having babies. Seriously. And here I am, with nothing on the horizon at all. But you know what? I'm ok with it. Especially since I'm not the only one. I just finished reading a blog of someone I know - let's call her Danica - and she's in a very similar situation. I know God has a perfect plan for us. I'll get married eventually, I'm sure. I just have to be patient. :)
Oh, you know what? This is something interesting that I heard happened at kids camp. A girl in my cabin at youth camp was an intern in another cabin at kids camp, and one of her girls felt like God had told her who she was going to marry. The thing is the girl is young, I think about 8, and the person she felt she was going to marry went to camp, but she hardly knew. What do you think? Is this true? This is a second-hand account, so obviously I don't know the details, but wow! Crazy! I wouldn't even know how to respond to something like that, especially if I was so young! What are your thoughts about this?
Anyways. Since I've been gone at camp, I don't have any more updates for Sydnee's wedding. She wanted us to go try on some dresses she found, but since I was gone, and Madeleine was gone on a trip, that didn't happen. But hopefully soon! ;)
Anyways, later.
MM.
PS. Before I left for camp, I watched the whole BBC Robin Hood series online. It's AMAZING. That's where I got my code name, from the legend of Robin Hood. I love that story so much and the BBC version was really good (except for the last season, sadly). But I still highly recommend it!! -Miss Marian.
And I only blogged once in August.
Bad me. I'm sorry!
But seriously, where did the summer go? I've been gone the last two weeks at camp, and even that went by insanely fast. It was so awesome though. I loved both of my cabins, and though I was a bit nervous before the start of camp, because I didn't know any of the girls who'd be in my cabin, we all gelled really well together and ended up having an awesome time together. I love being a counselor. WAY better than being an intern and washing the dishes! Haha. But seriously. Though it was utterly exhausting, it was soooo worth it. And God really moved in those two weeks, and it was just amazing to see how well everyone responded!
But anyways. What's new with me on the wedding/relationship front? Well, it seems like every day someone new on Facebook is getting engaged. Or married. Or having babies. Seriously. And here I am, with nothing on the horizon at all. But you know what? I'm ok with it. Especially since I'm not the only one. I just finished reading a blog of someone I know - let's call her Danica - and she's in a very similar situation. I know God has a perfect plan for us. I'll get married eventually, I'm sure. I just have to be patient. :)
Oh, you know what? This is something interesting that I heard happened at kids camp. A girl in my cabin at youth camp was an intern in another cabin at kids camp, and one of her girls felt like God had told her who she was going to marry. The thing is the girl is young, I think about 8, and the person she felt she was going to marry went to camp, but she hardly knew. What do you think? Is this true? This is a second-hand account, so obviously I don't know the details, but wow! Crazy! I wouldn't even know how to respond to something like that, especially if I was so young! What are your thoughts about this?
Anyways. Since I've been gone at camp, I don't have any more updates for Sydnee's wedding. She wanted us to go try on some dresses she found, but since I was gone, and Madeleine was gone on a trip, that didn't happen. But hopefully soon! ;)
Anyways, later.
MM.
PS. Before I left for camp, I watched the whole BBC Robin Hood series online. It's AMAZING. That's where I got my code name, from the legend of Robin Hood. I love that story so much and the BBC version was really good (except for the last season, sadly). But I still highly recommend it!! -Miss Marian.
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